Speeches of Hyo Jin Moon: Episode 09

Speeches of Hyo Jin Moon 2006-2008
Delivered Sunday at Belvedere Estate in Tarrytown, New York
Hyo Jin Moon Speaks on Family, Page 28

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So, how would you go about that? What would be the ideal position of an ideal elder son? Let's say the boys are over here and the girls are over here. If I'm stuck in the middle, because I pretty much have to stand in the middle, I have to allow them to come in and have access to what's above, to the vertical. That would be the ideal elder brother. Not always hogging it but more than that, the selfless thing. If you can do that, always, then you pretty much can create peace all the time. Would you say that fits theoretically? It seems so simple, but it's so hard to do so. Why? Many times, we have different things that we like. I. guess because there are character differences or personality differences, we like certain things more than other kinds of things. And many times, it's difficult to accommodate all that difference and that's what causes the problem. And because everybody has their own demands-and of course the reality is constantly changing, and hopefully it's moving forward—and those are expanding, growing larger and stronger, sometimes that growth is not fast enough to cover the demand. And you seem powerless or you seem, I guess, not caring to the people who are demanding. That's about it. If only those who are demanding something could at times just be a little patient, we could recover from that kind of potential crisis. But sometimes, everyone becomes distant in these kinds of situations.

What's the stuff? What do you think? You fill in the blank. Why do you need to have it so quickly? What are you going to do with all this stuff when you finally get everything that you want? What are you going to do with it? I see what you do with it. That's about it. I don't think that's a good thing. That's going to come and bite your behind any time soon. And I worry about that. It's not because I don't know how to do that—if you think of it, you try to avoid it. But, you have to know your limitations. You have to know your circumstances. And for some things, it's not going to work so well. That's why you don't do it. That's why you should avoid it. You walk around crap, not because you're afraid of it, it's because you don't want to step on it. I mean, if you get pissed off, you can do that, step on it. But you walk around it to avoid it because of obvious reasons. That's about it. And sometimes, we just get too hurried, and we want too many things, all the time, too quickly. Just walk away sometimes. Just step back. I don't really need it now.

If you give yourself a little more time and try to think about more positive things rather than selfish things all the time, maybe all those things, even the stuff you think you want now, might end up not that important when you mature. Give yourself a proper time to grow. I know the world is in a hurry. And if you follow that, you become obsessed with it and sensitive to that stuff. Then what do you "think you're going to end up with? You'll end up being just like that, that's about it. You'll be chasing the same thing that everybody is chasing. The way they chase it, and the strategy they use to chase that stuff is nasty. It's not something you can be proud of, that you want to hold in your heart to be proud of forever. I don't think so. The glory might be temporary, but if that's what you choose, okay, I can't stop you, right? So that's about it.

So how do you start with creating an ideal world? You start with yourself, and use basic understanding of your basic family that people grow up with, and even the family that you have. If you have unresolved issues, try to make it up. Try to do something about it, start from there. Don't argue. Don't look off too far. All of you have to have that answer cleared up and properly. That's the only way we can start to influence society, alright? So if you want to go about it properly, then let's be proper. Then we can talk about it. We can make a strategy that is real, that can make things happen. Otherwise, it's just talk. No one cares about just talking. There are plenty of people who can talk. Now let's talk about something that can make a difference in the end. I think that's important. That's the kind of stuff that needs to be said, and people need to talk like that. More people talk that way than try to walk it. And yes, we can have that foundation and start making things better because we have an army. We can stand on the line and cover each other's back. Some fights, you just can't do it alone. That does not mean that just because you have numbers, that you are going to automatically win, either. It's not this triangle of quality, quantity and speed, like in competition. And you really have to home in on work and sacrifice. If you don't do that, it doesn't work. Very simple.

That's all I want to share with you. What's family? Family is about learning about what's proper, proper order, subject and object relationship, and how to live with God for crying out loud. If you can't live with each other in brotherhood just because you have this elder son stuff, how do you expect to live with your parents? How do you expect to live with God? Brotherhood is just horizontal stuff. This is where we work out that ultimate quest for living with God. Rather than just shooing away these little sisters, I'm going to be an old boy and let's see what good you got. That kind of simple stuff. You do more of it, all that other stuff goes away. It's not that difficult when you have a good family.

And this is a lot of work in certain situations, because there are walls of no communication. Jump starting it is some tremendous challenge. It becomes the greatest problem and challenge. But it can be done and if it is done, no matter how difficult a hand is dealt to you, maybe when you get a moment, you can do it. In the end, it can be resolved. No problem. But given that stuff, ironing out that stuff, I think, is important at every level. One way or the other, it has to be done. And the clearer we are and more focused we are, the better soldiers we will be. No doubt about that, l believe in that stuff.

Anyway, I'm just here to perform the beauty of a pep talk, right? So that's pretty much all I have to say, I guess. Not much, as far as this topic is concerned. For a year, I said to myself, I'll be here every Sunday from here. But I have to go away for a few days, and next week, I don't think I can make it. But the week after, I'll be here. So take care.