Speeches of Hyo Jin Moon: Episode 76

Speeches of Hyo Jin Moon 2006-2008
Delivered Sunday at Belvedere Estate in Tarrytown, New York
Hyo Jin Moon Speaks on Maturation, Page 303

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Maturation

June 3, 2007

Good morning. Let's talk about "Maturation."

How do you want your children to grow up? Before you talk about yourself, before you talk about what's right and wrong, before you talk about what's good and bad to children, I think that you first have to understand what kind of reality they have to face. Their reality, because they'll be in it, not you. For instance, I could send my children to the nursery here where they glorify Father and they could be in that kind of environment, but once they start to go to public school things would be very different. The glorification would be somewhere else. That's a problem. And they're living in it, not you.

So, if you think about reality, you have to think about their reality. That's the reality that you have to deal with to help them grow. You have to learn something from it, know how to control it, manage it, and ultimately transcend it to the next level. Because there are many levels in which you need to overcome, you need to first understand and then overcome so that you can finally say bye—bye to this world and prepare yourself for the next one. And many times language is a barrier.

The language parents use to speak to a child who lives in that kind of environment is often foreign to them. You expect them to rise up to your level. But there are times when you need to step down. You need to understand their reality. You have to understand their reality, what they're going through within their reality, before you talk to them about good and bad, what's cool and uncool, and importantly, what's smart and stupid. In the end you want to teach your children something and to give them something, yet they have to be in a position to receive it, otherwise they'll never get you or understand you.

As the child, the first thing is time, the decade you are born in. You start with individual self stuff. You're experimenting with yourself, you're trying to learn your boundaries and your limitations. You want to know how much excitement, how much boredom you can take. That's what happens in a child's mind and in a child's reality. That's the only thing that's important to them. Then once they start to go to school and they reach the next decade, they move into teenagehood and deal with what is cool and uncool, that kind of stuff. It's the social rather than individual stuff that is important to them. Why? Because they're growing up. They're just beginning to realize how it works in society. So, the fundamental thing that they seek to learn is that relationship. So, the concepts that you use to try to teach them what is right ultimately has to relate to them, not you. You're still growing too. And I know that when you get to Father's age you are only going to speak about spirit world. Trust me.

Then comes the time when they grow up beyond teens and they go to college. They become college students and they start to become more socially active, right? A lot of them become idealists. If you can become an idealist, that's the time that you're going to turn into one. You're accessing a greater society, greater relationship. The next decade is going to be more. You are literally going to try to find yourself and define yourself in a certain kind of situation. Whatever profession that you have chosen, that's all that you're going to think about and that's all that every ounce of your energy will be focused on, trying to master that and trying to make a difference and to compete and win. A lot of times the jargon of your profession is important, but in the next decade, it won't be as important anymore. When you turn 40, all those things are not as important. What's more important is finding a more universal focus, something that is more universal. Even if it has to be earthly, you want to find something more universal, and you want to expand that social base, connect to more people, not just to your existing relationships and you're just going to take it to the next level. You literally want to start to actually see the value in people, and their differences, not all the bad but only the good, because that's important to you. Why? Because you're preparing yourself for the final departure as that is the completion of maturation. More and more it's going to become more and more important to you, that thing, knowing that stuff. Nothing else matters. That's how we grow.

Please, when you deal with children, just speak their language. Once they start to disregard certain things they will rail against our language one way or the other. When I was young, I was taught certain things, and when I went to school it was completely opposite. You can only take so much, but when it starts to become more and more overwhelming, you then start to disregard what you were taught, regardless. Why? Because it's human nature. It's self preservation. "I have to take care of myself. That ain't good—there's nothing good here." And you start to react. The thing is, unfortunately, when that happens you just might go down the wrong path that will take you a long time to recover from. You're pretty much on your own then.

How difficult was it for you to find God? Did you grow up in a religious environment? What if you didn't? It pretty much will be like that. You pretty much have destroyed whatever you had in your mind and you have to build it back up. That's the problem. So, if you can, don't go that path. Success is just one little thing. Even in competition, winning is measured in milliseconds, right? That determines the first place or the second place guy, right? It's that kind of stuff. It's that little effort, a little more, that makes a difference. And it's difficult to do that sometimes. And if you have to do that all the time obviously it's going to take stuff out of you. You will pay for it. If you have chosen that path then that's your call, isn't it? And how long can I stick to this? I don't know. How long can you tough it out? I don't know.

The thing is that everybody, regardless of whether they're a little kid or people that are preparing to go to spirit world, to the very end they have to face that one question. And you have to answer it. No one else can do that for you when it comes to you. Try to understand that God is in zero, right? God is in the middle. That's why He's in zero. Father talks about horizontal and vertical and God is in here. How far do you want to expand? That is your life goal, to determine how far you expand. When you expand horizontally you have to match it vertically too. What you deliver based on your horizontal expansion is up to you, because you want perfection right? Aw, that's tough. Boy it's tough! Am I doing this stuff so that I expand horizontally for myself or something greater? That's tough.

Let's say that you can do that, expand to the level that the world will recognize. But to be perfect you have to match it up vertically, right? We understand that because that's the language, the jargon that we use in the church, right? But when it comes to kids, try to understand you have to sink down, you have to go down. You can't expect them to always rise up to your level. Even grown-ups can't. You can't expect them to always do that stuff. How do you expect children to do that stuff all the time? That's crazy! So, you have to have that kind of understanding that sets the standard. It needs to be so, yes? Hey, it's your child! And it's your life, right? And we will grow to the end. It's up to you. Okay.